Men Are In Trouble, So Are Women

Today a friend sent me a link to an article titled “Why men are in trouble“.  The article discusses multiple statistics of how women are fast becoming, in my words, the superior gender.  It shows statistics of how women are becoming more educated and catching up with men in obtaining high paying power jobs.

Women are saying more and more that men are immature, distant from their families, and are less religious.  Over the past couple of decades there is a noted decline in men regarding work, marriage and religion.

From a woman’s point of view the statistics in the article are troublesome.  You see, this isn’t how God intended it to be.  God create Adam and then created Eve to be his helpmate, his companion Genesis 2:18.  Man was created to be the provider, the spiritual leader of the household.  To love his wife as Christ loved the church. Ephesians 5.

As a society we became very successful and wanted more.  Wanting more caused most families to get into debt and required women to start working to bring in enough money to maintain an over extended lifestyle.  As time went on, women were no longer satisfied with being demeaned at work and/or doing the same job as a man and getting paid less.  So women protested, as the years went on, women began to be paid more and take on more responsibility at work.

Women would get home from a “hard day at the office” and be tired to do the house work and deal with kids (who were in day care all day starved for Mom’s attention).  Men too worked all day, however they came to expect their wives to still maintain the house, kids and hold down a full time job.  Roles have started to change.  Since men were not created this way, nor were women, men have begun to give up.  To take a huge step back and to look at women differently. They were no longer felt like they were the hero, even though in the eyes of a women they were…until they began to give up that is.

So here we are, men are in trouble, they are boys that need to man up and become the leader of the household again.  We women are in trouble too.  Divorce rates are higher than ever, our men are leaving us, single parent homes are more common than united families.  Women are having to pick up the load of both mom & dad as well as homemaker and provider.  This is not natural and this is what is causing relationships to suffer.

Ladies we have done this to ourselves by wanting it all.  Men, you have taken a step back in an attempt to maintain an over extended lifestyle and it has gotten out of control.  Men…grow up, step up and man up! Take your role back.

Women, at least good Christian women, are looking for a man with true Christian attributes.   The key is Christian attributes.  Funny thing is, I have had two men tell me that even though women want a good man, that we (women) are really looking for a “bad boy”.  This could not be further from the truth.  Good Christian women are not looking for a bad boy, we are looking for a good honest, Christian man.  A friend also told me that the good guys get treated bad for being a good guy.  As a women, I am sorry if that is how you have been treated, good men are hard to find and should be treated with respect.

Today I also say the following quote:

“Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up, who will stay awake just to watch you sleep. Wait for the boy who kisses you on your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you’re in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you’re just as pretty without makeup on. Wait for the one who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares about you and how lucky he is to have you. Wait for the one who turns to his friends and says, ”…that’s her’ and smiles”~ Unknown

I posted this because ladies, if you are looking for a man that is other than what is described above you will end up with a less than honorable man and then blame him for not being what you “imagined”.  A man must show character consistently and continually from the start.

Men, please man up, build your relationship with Christ, be honest, gentle, not abusive in anyway and love your women. Women do want a knight in shining armor.   Ladies, you too must step up, be respectful to men, let them know you need them in a healthy way, let them be your knight, your protector.

Men and women must be faithful to each other, communicate and allow each other to be in the role that God intends.  If we don’t society today will continue to deteriorate.  Men will continue to be in trouble and women, we will too.